Writing Those Kind of Scenes

     You know what I mean, those kind of scenes. I don't care if the characters are having sex or just kissing I can not write that. It feels unnatural and I feel like I'm not supposed to write it, like it's some form of forbidden writing. This is all very annoying though because there are some character relations where I might actually want to create a more serious relasionship (I don't mean having sex) just having them simply kiss each other. Honestly I don't like writing the word kiss, or saying it for that matter. It's a weird word, kiss. Whenever I actually do write the word kiss I cringe up a bit or I just suddenly start hearing Kiss songs in my head. I'm not asexual I swear.
     The thing about writing characters with deeper relationships is you may have the perfect image in your head but actually finding a way to put it into words can be quite difficult. Artists have the advantage in these situations because anything from a character's expression to what exactly is happening can be hard or awkward to write out and describe, while an artist can just draw it out as it is. Then again anatomy is hard but moving on. 
     Another thing that sucks about writing intimate scenes is you ride a thin line of cliche and cheesy when wring them. It's extremely easy to swing too far each way or even just fall off and land in the bottomless pit of wow that was just horrible. Writing any form of romance often is in the end really good or really bad. Even if your writing is good, finding something that hasn't been done three billion times can be and usually will be extremely hard. I personally would never be able to pull off writing something where the main theme is romance though I guess one of my goals as a writer is being able to. The definition dictionary.com gives for the word romance though is  "a novel or other prose narrative depicting heroic or marvelous deeds, pageantry, romantic exploits, etc., usually in a historical or imaginary setting." I thought this was actually kind of funny because when most people think of the genre romance they think a story about characters in a relasionship (often a sexual one) than you look at the definition and it says "depicting heroic or marvelous deeds, pageantry, romantic exploits, etc". That all being said I think what makes a good romance story is one that the relationship of the characters is not the one and only thing going on. If all your focusing on is the actual sexual relationship you may end up skipping over things like character development, backstory, foreshadowing, etc. 
     Overall writing those kind of scenes can be awkward and hard, and writing a whole story themed with romance is not much easier. Although people do find ways to pull it off and some are able to do it with no shame whatsoever cough cough Kaneil. I don't know if I'll ever be able to successfully write any form of an intimacy between character let alone let others read it but you never know. I mean I doubt  E. L. James thought when she was ten that she'd get a porno published when she grew up.